My brother-in-law's wife passed away from cancer in March. It really surprised me that I was the only family member to drop what they were doing, and come to her bedside. He had called me at 11am on a Saturday. I was on his front steps by midnight. I broke a few speed limits to get there as quickly as I could. He didn't think she would last the weekend... She did. :)
Tom and I worked the next day to move things around the house to make it easier for her to get around. For the most part, she was paralyzed. She couldn't smile properly for having so many small strokes.
I remember the night before she passed, she looked at me with a quisical look on her face and asked, "Why can't you have children??" She immediately was sorry for asking, I must have had a shocked look on my face.
I swear she must have apologized for about a half hour. Kathy was the person who got me interested in paper crafts. She and I did a lot of things together. We beaded, sewed, drew, and any other thing remotely creative. We did it together despite being hundreds of miles apart. She made me promise to make a couple of floral arrangements for her, since I did them better than she did :) Plus, she couldn't move very well.
The next morning, I asked my niece how she was doing. She told me that Kathy kept having small strokes and that she wasn't coherent. The nurse was there keeping a close eye on her so I went to shower.
I miss her so much.
Her husband, Tom, wrote a beautiful letter that made me cry. This is his first Christmas without Kathy. She was really the love of his life. He said to me that I am more of a sister to him, rather than an in-law. I approve whole heartedly. He's more a brother than an in-law. I gave him a lot of advise, listened when needed, cried with him, and was just there for him whenever he needed. We've become rather close this year. I really worry about him, he's all alone now. He says he's doing ok though......
I love you Tom! This one's for you.
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